{"id":567,"date":"2016-02-28T16:00:13","date_gmt":"2016-02-28T14:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hbne.co.il?p=567"},"modified":"2019-11-05T13:38:35","modified_gmt":"2019-11-05T11:38:35","slug":"bulldozer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hbne.co.il\/?p=567","title":{"rendered":"Bulldozer"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"hands\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Yes, I married a mechanic.<\/h3>\n

Is it not fortunate that he married a \u200ebulldozer like me!\u200e<\/h2>\n

There\u2019s a mission? I am your woman. I will plan, coordinate, manage, \u200eorganize, build and put together my own one woman show. Once \u200ewhen one of our children was having problems at school, the \u200epedagogical team looked in our direction in hopes that we would \u200esolve the problem. I recognized the void and stepped into action. I \u200ewould find the solution.\u200e<\/p>\n

We built a house; I orchestrated all of the tradesmen. A bar mitzvah; \u200eeverything's under control. A trip abroad: I researched and executed \u200ethe plan. A health crisis within the family: I will find the solution. I am \u200ea general by birth. It is no wonder that just a few months in the army \u200e\u200e(IDF) were enough to understand that there were bigger roles awaiting \u200eme. \u200e<\/p>\n

On the dance floor, however, I felt completely out of my element.<\/h3>\n

If the dance was any more than Israeli folk \u200edancing or other dances with fixed choreography, I \u200ewas hesitant to venture out . As my luck would \u200ehave it, my partner\u2019s \u201cdance intelligence\u201d was even less than mine. \u200eOur \u201ctime cards\u201d were clocked full of flowers; our \u201cdance cards\u201d \u200eremained empty, a constant state of \u201csitting this one out\u201d.\u200e<\/p>\n

\u200e As a rule, I do not like to sit on the sidelines. I always disliked \u200ewatching sports from the sidelines.<\/p>\n

Why watch???
\nWhen I would rather be \u200eplaying!\u200e<\/h2>\n

I longed to learn ballroom dancing together with hubby. Almost ten \u200eyears ago I surprised him on his birthday with an exclusive package of \u200edance lessons. Sometimes my audacity surprises even me! I outdid \u200emyself bigtime! Couch potato days of yesteryear (prebiking times) was \u200ealways a challenging time to buy gifts (don\u2019t need anything, don\u2019t \u200ewant anything). I unabashedly decided to give him a gift that I wanted. \u200eI hoped that ultimately it would be a present which we would both \u200eenjoy.\u200e<\/p>\n

In retrospect, I can safely say that this decision opened the door for \u200echange. We are not the same people that we were and it is not \u200ebecause of the changing landscapes on our heads\u2026<\/p>\n

\u200e\u200e\u200e\u200eWithout a doubt, \u200edance enhanced our connection to one another. Dance, as it \u200esharpened and enhanced our senses, added a heightened level of \u200eintimacy and sensuality to our relationship. It wasn't just on a \u200ebetween him and her level either. There was a change in our \u200einterpersonal relationships on all levels. We are more open, happier \u200eand more sociable \u2013 not to mention that we dare to step on \u200ethe dance floor\u2026\u200e \u200e<\/h3>\n

The gift of dance was definitely a mutually beneficial one.<\/h2>\n

For me the \u200eexperience was especially volatile and challenging: would the general \u200ebe able to follow another\u2019s lead?! Ultimately dance was liberating \u200ebeyond imagination but it came at a price. The challenge of giving \u200etotal control to another was daunting to say the least.<\/p>\n

It took a long \u200etime and much practice before I was finally able to let my guard down.\u200e<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n

Dance as Therapy?\u200e<\/strong>
\nIt is just dance. What is all of the fuss about?\u200e<\/strong>
\nDance moves us far from our comfort zone and leaves us exposed and \u200ebare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u200eExposed.<\/h2>\n

I can recall the child in me. A sweet memory of that six year \u200eold child comes to mind. My girlfriend and I jumped in our birthday \u200esuits on my bed. Liberation: free movement, flowing and natural, \u200efalling up to defy gravity. Not a care in the world.<\/p>\n

We were not at all \u200eoccupied with thoughts about what would happen if someone were to \u200esee us\u2026\u200e<\/p>\n

\u200e\u200e\u200e\u200eIn today\u2019s modern, sterile and cold world human touch is a scarce \u200ecommodity. A huge chunk of our day is spent gazing into one screen \u200eor another. We barely glance at one another, let alone touch.\u200e \u200e<\/h3>\n

Dance can add much, not only to sculpt and strengthen our bodies, \u200ebut to rebalance and reset ourselves back to center.<\/h3>\n

Dance not just as \u200ea hobby but as a tool to:\u200e<\/span><\/h3>\n

\u2666 Improve interpersonal skills
\n\u2666 Develop trust
\n\u2666 Enhance teamwork
\n\u2666 Foster maturity
\n\u2666 Bolster self confidence
\n\u2666 Advance executive function
\n\u2666 Improve focus
\n\u2666 Alter self-perception
\n\u2666 Gain self-control<\/p>\n

In short, dance leaves its mark far past the dancefloor! <\/strong><\/p>\n

Some inspiring \u200eand fascinating applications in the works:\u200e<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Dance and Children<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n

May I have this dance, please? | Pierre Dulaine | TEDxHollywood<\/a><\/h4>\n

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. In this talk, Pierre teaches the art of respect through ballroom dancing in a world of technology, isolation, and human interaction. Pierre Dulaine has transformed his life and others through sharing the art of ballroom dancing with the world.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n